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Hair, My New Medium (Creativity Tuesday)

I recently decided to grow my hair out. I have always wanted long hair, and I even had it for awhile, but I never thought I pulled the look off. My hair is very fine and gets stringy and limp when it’s long. Most of my adult life, I’ve had it smartly bobbed. Very practical. But I have always wanted long, pretty, lovely hair, and as part of my whole life changing/transformation/reinvention I thought fuck it, I’m gonna grow it, and I’ll just learn to make it work. Even if that means trying weird things like “product” (wha?).

I recently found this amaaaaaaaaaaaazing website that is perfect for me because it’s for women who want pretty hair with minimal fuss (she talks a lot about “sustainable hair,” makes some of her own products, and has a whole category called “Mom hair”). I bought a boar bristle brush and loads of bobby pins and have started trying fancy hair for fun. I’m doing the girls’ hair, too.

twistydo

Sorry this looks weird. I used the iPad to take the pic. Anyway, you can sort of  see that I twisted my hair across the back and pinned the shit out of it (my hair is dark, so no pics I’ve taken really show it off. Sigh!). It looks pretty and  much better than a ponytail on a dirty hair day (my therapist, who reminds me so much of Amy Poehler that I will call her Amy, loved it). It took all of 2 min to do. Which makes it worth it. I’m also experimenting with braids. If you have enough pins, you can do it with shorter hair. If you have enough pins, you can do anything.

victoryrolls

Like my quasi-victory rolls? It felt a little like wings but I got loads of compliments. 1 minute, pins. For real.

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I got Jen in on it, too. This is a “sock bun.” Does she not look fab and ready for the ballet?

sockbun

My hair is not yet long enough to do awesome buns, twists, and beehives, but I will be working on it this summer. Updos for the heat wave!

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I pin-curled the girls’ hair and they didn’t really understand it. They liked the pin curls less than the look of the pin rolls. Here’s Holly as a pin-curl girl.

pincurlgirl

And here’s a french braid I did in Robin’s hair. Hers is short and fine like mine. This lasted all of 5 minutes but it’s all good practice.

braid

In my mind, I’ll be a curvaceous broad with long hair, like a Renoir.

But in reality, I think I look more like Mrs. Piggle Wiggle.

And I’m really, really good with that. I’ve been reading a lot of feminist blogs that focus on body positivity like this fantastic, vintage, artsy blog and I’m really inspired. I can love myself. And braid my hair. Mrs. Piggle Wiggle delights in her long hair, and she’s short and curvy and has twinkling brown eyes. Now if only my house was upside down…

Lazy Decorating: Girls’ Bedroom (with special love for bolster pillows)

I’ve been thinking about decorating my house a lot lately. I know I like to grouse about lifestyle blogs and how perfect everyone’s house looks, yadda yadda. But I’m not immune to the aesthetic pleasures of a beautiful home. I love beautiful, bright, clean spaces. As a teenager, I pored over Beautiful Homes & Gardens and even went through a phase where I used graph paper to design my own houses with wrought iron staircases and screened porches. I obsess over Offbeat Home and read every update at Young House Love, even if their style doesn’t mesh with mine 100%.

So, every once in awhile, I do make an effort to make my home a pretty place. It’s not designer-level intensity; it doesn’t have all those little touches that really make a place shine (I am bad at finishing stuff, after all); but this is my lazy mom/woman/decorator experience. Because, really: I think decorating is one area where even a modicum of effort can have a huge payoff. Even if it doesn’t transform your life, paint makes a huge difference. Even if you don’t have the perfect window treatments, upgrading from vinyl blinds makes your house feel less like a rental. Because I do believe little things matter, I think there’s room in the blogodesignsphere for some lazy decorating ideas, poorly photographed, with no buying information whatsoever. With that, here is how I redecorated my girls’ bedroom with little fanfare or fanciness, for under $1000. Continue reading

Job Interview, The Problem of Crappy Grad Advisors, & The Sweet Taste of Freedom

First, the good news: I have an interview next week for an admin position that I am very hopeful about. I’d work with first year students (my fave!), have the possibility of family-friendly hours and awesome health insurance, and work with some people who I really like. In pretty much every way, it would be ideal, and therefore I am trying to assume I will not get it so that if I don’t, it won’t be too crushing.

If this does work out, everything would be ok financially and we could unclench a little. I bought a pair of discount slacks at Loft and am going to have to do some stain treating and creative draping to be presentable next week. If I get the job? New wardrobe: one without sunscreen stains, holes, or bleach spots.

I will dress nothing like this.

This month, I’ve been lucky enough to pull in some freelancing gigs that have been great. If I could just get 12 more of them over the next 12 months, we would be doing well. But freelancing is all ebb and flow and now that these cash cow gigs are in the past, I’m still getting my editing/writing site set up and saying yes to everything. One of the things I’m doing is working with a former writing center student on an ongoing basis while she tries very, very hard to get her diss proposal and prospectus written.

I have to say that working with her has made me so, so glad I am done with grad school. Continue reading

If Mama Nervosa were talented photographers instead of bloggers…

“The stress, the chaos, and the need to simultaneously escape and connect are issue that I investigate in this body of work.  We live in a culture where we are both “child centered” and “self-obsessed.”  The struggle between living in the moment versus escaping to another reality is intense since these two opposites strive to dominate.  Caught in the swirl of soccer practices, play dates, work, and trying to find our way in our “make-over” culture, we must still create the space to find ourselves.” Julie Blackmon, Artist Statement

My lifelong friend, Steph, pointed me in the direction of Julie Blackmon’s photography, and rather blew my mind. I love her domestic scenes and I feel like the tensions she explores — between self and child, beauty and chaos, escape and connection — match up so well with the questions and themes we sometimes explore on Mama Nervosa.

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Fashion Tips for New Moms: How to MacGyver Your Way Into Being Publicly Presentable

In the spirit of our repudiation of lifestyle blogging and our interest in representing life as we life it, rather than as we wish we live it, I bring to you my New Mama Fashion Tips. These can work for any mama, but are especially useful to mothers in that transitional time after birth, when your body is lumpy, your boobs are leaky, and everything feels exposed and uncontainable and uncertain.

I’m not a fashionista, or even a nice-clothes-ista. On my first date, at age 16, I wore Mom jeans and a boxy, striped t-shirt. I kid you not. My idea of dressing up was brushing my hair and putting on lip gloss. I’ve never developed a personal style or look or signature accessory. I don’t even have pierced ears (I decided in jr high I’d rather spend my money on CDs). Motherhood has only made this aspect of my personality worse, because it’s the best reason to not look nice. First of all, no one faults you for wearing the same jeans every day when you sleep less than 3 hours at a time and have enormous, leaking breasts and look like you might cry. They are not worried about your jeans at that moment. Second of all, there’s absolutely no point in wearing that nice sweater because it’s going to get puked on or peed on, or jelly-fingered, or snot-wiped, before you leave the house. I never struggled against this inevitability, I simply assumed/hoped no one would notice. Continue reading

(Chat) PINTEREST: Thinspo-for-the-home or divine inspiration?

This is the first in a new feature on our blog, which I’m realizing as I type that we haven’t named. But whatever: it’s CHAT! Jen and I will get together once a week to talk about some topic on our minds, and then share it with you. We hope it’s just the start of a broader conversation.

This week: PINTEREST! Love it or loath it? Inspiration or desperation? Time-waster or under-ass-fire-lighter? Below, we wonder if some crafts are more like porn than creative acts, and if design boards are just thinspo-for-the-home. Continue reading

Clutter Represents Possibility — Yeah, We Like That!!

One of our readers, K, submits the following to our real life/not style “This is Not a Lifestyle Blog” series.

K’s House

I just took this picture of our house, and my husband and I had the following conversation:

E: (suspicious) What are you taking a picture of?
K: Our house.
E: …You’re not going to post that.
K: No. (not on my facebook page or website)
E: Good. Don’t. (he totally knows I am up to something that involves shame)
K: Why not?
E: Somebody will see it.
K: And?
E: We could get in trouble. Continue reading

This is Not a Lifestyle Blog

I just read a fantastic article from Bitch Magazine’s newest edition, “Better Homes and Bloggers,” and it deeply resonated and spoke to me to the darkest depths of my blogging soul. Freelancing mama Holly Hilgenberg (great name) writes:

Both the appeal and the unease of lifestyle blogs are centered on the fact that, unlike more traditional forms of media like magazines, television, and movies, blogs are supposed to be real… This tension between authenticity and aspiration may be at the heart of why lifestyle blogs don’t just inspire readers, they also tend to bum them out… As one reader, Claudette, recounts: “I see her fucking noodle soup. And I feel like I should do that. And I don’t feel good. I feel like I should be perfect.” Claudette, who follows many style blogs, particularly those that reflect her own modernist sensibility and obsession with fashion and design, isn’t unhappy with her own life. But, she says, “I look around my house and I like the things I own…but it can never be good enough.”

I know Mama Nervosa is merely a week old, but this is not my first trip around the blogging block. This is my fifth or sixth attempt to create a blog with more than 4 readers (Hi, Mom!) despite the fact that for all of those blogs, I followed THE NUMBER ONE RULE OF BLOGGING SUCCESS which is DEFINE YOUR AUDIENCE: that is, find a niche and aggressively pursue it. I tried a budgeting blog (HA!); a mommy blog (fun for me, boring for everyone else); a hilarious TV blog (dang it, you have to actually watch a lot of TV to do that, preferably shows that are currently running and not outdated dregs on Netflix streaming); and even an aquarium enthusiast blog (it died when my fish did).

I sometimes worry that Mama Nervosa won’t be read because it is non-niche. We’ve written about screaming toddlers, grandmothers and peonies, and birth and car purchasing. OK; all of those topics have a thread of motherhood woven through them, but we promise to branch out into topics as diverse as our past lives as hippie fangirls, smokers, baristas, and teachers; crazy road trips with drug dealers and Frisbee throwers; quitting graduate school and near-death experiences; anti-hipster rants and commentaries on teen magazines from the early 90s. (So, far, though, we think the real NUMBER ONE RULE OF BLOGGING SUCCESS is USE FACEBOOK. It seems to be working.)

But the big premise behind all of this, the one thing we agreed upon when we hastily formed a blogging alliance via email after a transformative writing workshop, was that MN had to be about “messy life.” Continue reading